Dear Betrayed, I Know!

I am so very sorry for your heart break and your pain. I have walked through the valley of betrayal.

• I know how broken you feel.

• I know how so many things feel stolen and your heart aches and your mind can't comprehend the story that has unfolded.

• I know how anger wells up in you and you want them to pay.

• I know how the thought of them makes you sick and sends shards of glass through your soul, spirit and heart.

• I know how the sleepless nights and the record player that just wont stop.

• I know how much it hurts watching your children having to suffer because of their horrible choices.

• I know how there is split small seconds you forget this your life.

• I know how you grieve the future that is lost and the pain of knowing you now have to share milestones with the affair partner.

• I know how you want to desperately stop thinking about them.

• I know how you look forward to the day that is not your first thought and your last.

• I know how others want or expect you to just move on and put the past in the past.

• I know how everyone else just moves on and how it breaks your heart that they embrace the person who wrecked your family.

• I know how others want to define how you heal and at their pace.

• I know how triggers come out of no where and derail you.

• I know the pain is real and that the affair impacts the present and the future.

• I know how you desperately want to heal and be whole again.

• I know how you feel rejected, replaced and erased.

• I know how you have held your children as they cry over their broken family.

• I know the heart of ache of not being able fix it for your kids.

• I know how you never thought you would be here.

• I know you wish you could have saved your marriage and them.

• I know how angry you were at God when it didn't work out.

• I know the pain of memories on Facebook that come up and taunt you.

• I know the pain you feel when you go fishing for pain and look at their social media.

• I know how you sit and wonder how could they do this to their family.

• I know how you cried more than you thought was even possible.

• I know how the anxiety and the pit in your stomach makes you nauseous and feel overwhelmed.

• I know how you are on a roller coaster of emotions and you just want to get off the ride.

• I know how wonder where the person you married and love has gone.

• I know you feel hate towards yourself because you fought to only be betrayed again.

• I know how you prayed and begged God to bring him home and remove the affair partner.

• I know how you constantly swam in the Why.

• I know how you have spent hours educating yourself about infidelity in hopes of saving them and your marriage while they did nothing.

• I know you tried everything even things you regret to try and save the marriage.

• I know you compromised and disrespected yourself.

• I know how you desperately want them to seek your forgiveness so you can breath and have closure.

• I know how you want justice.

• I know how they made you feel unworthy and not worth fighting for.

• I know how they blamed you for their choice to have an affair.

• I know how they make you feel guilty for being angry.

• I know how desperately you wanted to put your family back together.

• I know the continued devastation of them walking away from their family and choosing the affair partner.

• I know how much it hurts to lose their family who you thought loved you.

• I know how how much you want to heal and let go so you can live.

• I truly know your pain.

You know what else I know?

• I know how hard it was to stand up and say no more.

• I know how you finally found your strength and realized this was not about you it was about them.

• I know how hard you have worked to heal and make a new life for yourself.

• I know you are going to get through this.

• I know this is going to make you stronger.

• I know that God loves you immensely.

• I know the Lord has great plans for your life.

• I know your strength will be an example to your children.

• I know that God knows the truth.

• I know that you are not to blame.

• I know that you are worthy.

• I know that you are unique and one of kind.

• I know that cheating was their choice.

• I know there is never a reason to cheat.

• I know that each day that passes you will heal more and more.

• I know that adultery is not love. It is a sin and abuse.

• I know that the rollercoaster will slow down and you will get off the ride.

• I know that you will smile again.

• I know that you will laugh and find joy and happiness again.

• I know that you will find love again someday if that's what you want.

• I know that the Lord will restore all that has been stolen.

• I know that God will serve His level of mercy and justice.

• I know this is only a bad chapter in your story.

• I know there are so many more chapters left to write.

• I know you and the Lord can write your story together.

• I know there will be Glory from your Story.

Remember who you belong to and that the Lord has great plans for your life. Don't let the sins of someone else steal what the Lord has in store for you. Know that you are loved immensely and that you are in great company. Jesus suffered the most horrific betrayal of all time. He knows your pain and He will walk through this valley with you every step of the way.

Love to you all,

Fellow Betrayed

Infidelity Survivor.